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A li'l dood is downright furious because people keep suggesting she lower herself to being a nasty carpet muncher when, as a "gay trans man," she should be just as entitled to the wellspring of True and Honest penis as any other friend of Dorothy. For some reason, it's okay for troons 'n' poons to have sexual boundaries that involve natal biology, but the rest of us have to risk losing our jobs and social circles for having the same standards! This house of cards cannot fall quickly enough.
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If there existed an orientation handbook for transgenderism, I feel that included in it would be "completely torpedo your relationships and upend your life" with how common it is. Take this pooner for example, who decided that after only three months on the tranny train, she's 1) quit her job twice, 2) cut off several friendships including a best friend of 20 years and 3) is trying to move to a new country without having any savings. Yeah, this sounds like someone emotionally stable enough to make major, permanent medical decisions.T4T being shoved down people's throats
I don't need advice, I don't need sorrows prayers, really just need to vent because I'm sick of being told t4t will cure the world of evil.
It really really bugs me that whenever dating cis people comes up in any sort of conversation, t4t people find it so world-endingly necessary to bring up how they're t4t and it's better than cis people in every way imaginable.
Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for you, for all of you. I'm happy you're happy, I'm happy you get to enjoy your relationship and your partner with no qualms, I'm happy you're as comfortable as you are whilst dating someone else who's trans. Truly, I love that for you. But for the love of fucking god, stfu if no one's asking you about it.
I'll be blunt and say I don't want to date trans people. I'm gay so trans women fall out of question, and sexually, natal penises and real sperm are important to me, pretty much non-negotiable - so as much as it sucks, that kicks most trans men out of the question too. My own brain, with the kinks and fetishes that it houses, has forced me to be interested only in cis men. I wish that wasn't the case, believe me, but I'd be lying to myself and my partner if I tried to pretend like those things aren't important to me in a relationship. I'm a sexual person, sex is key in a relationship for me. But I don't talk about it, I don't tell anyone how good or bad it is, because frankly it's not anyone's business, and I don't want to be like those people who have to suffocate people with their relationships.
That said, any time I try to talk about my experience with dating cis men, or try to vent about the rampant transphobia among cis gay guys, instead of even something as stupid as "sucks to be you", I only get t4t people praising t4t like it's the solution to pollution and every other problem ever. "this is exactly why I'm t4t" "this is why dating other trans people is so much better" "used to date cis guys now I'm t4t, never going back" COOL. AWESOME. HAPPY FOR YOU. it's just not for me though so stfu.
And I already know I'm gonna get people saying I'm transphobic and that I don't see trans men as men, when that's so far from the point here. Trans men are men, trans women are women. I however have several sperm kinks that most trans man can't fulfil, and the trans women who can that are comfortable enough to perform it, are unfortunately women that I am not interested in because I'm gay.
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A TiF's parents reject her unstable reality and substitute it with their own, but for some reason, OP resents her mother's milder reaction more than the hostility provided by her father. She even states that she is not afraid to threaten her mother to get her way, which is usually a hilarious show of impotence from most pooners - but OP supposedly suffers from Capgras delusion, which even she admits makes her more inclined to be aggressive towards her mother.Did anyone suddenly cut a lot of people out and make major changes to their lives after realising they were trans?
I am very new to the trans experience, I only realised mid April, so I am a proper baby transmasc and everything is really new and scary but its also been really amazing and exciting. In the last 3+ months I have noticed my feelings and attitudes about a lot of things in my life have been changing. I feel a lot stronger mentally and much more comfortable in myself and my identity but I also quickly became really uncomfortable with a lot of people and things in my current life. Due to this i've made some bigish changes recently and now I am scared i'm moving too quickly and I will regret it in the future. I feel like I am rapidly outgrowing so many things that aren't even related to being trans or my gender expression.
For context I am in my mid-20s, AFAB, I live at home with my dad and nb sibling in a really anti-trans, anti-everything place. 2 months ago I realised I could no longer stand my toxic boss and workplace anymore so i've tried to quit twice with no new job lined up. I decided a few of my friends, that I have had some issues with for a while, just weren't right for me anymore (including my childhood best friend of 20 years) and I am now trying to cut them out of my life. I've applied for a visa to move to a new country alone for a bit (I only barely have the savings for this). I haven't even started to figure out transitioning yet but I just have so much impatience running through me and I can't seem to help but give in to it.
I was wondering if anyone else could share their experiences with shifting mentalities after realising they were trans and how they dealt with it? And also if anyone has any advice on what should I do with myself? I feel like I am just blowing everything up without a plan going forward.
Idk there's been a lot on my mind. Thank you for reading my ramble. I'd really appreciate any advice anyone can give me.
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A troon speculates as to the origin of female hostility towards male invaders of their spaces and, because your average tranny might be located on lists of "animals without brains," thinks it may have something to do with jealousy. The hilarity here comes from the fact that OP is posting to r/honesttransgender, where the NLOGs of transfolxxx congregate to talk about how posters like these make the rest of them and their ""medical condition"" look bad. This is why you must never trust even the truscum, for they, too, are amoebic and repulsive.Both of my parents are transphobic, but for some reason my Ma's hurts more?
Both of my parents have their personal beliefs against how I am, with my Pa flat out stating I'll never be a "real man" to him, but for some reason my Ma's form of transphobia is more disheartening. She gives excuse after excuse as to why I can't, how unfair it is to her, how I make her feel. I've given her years of time, multiple instances of me coming out to her, and giving her very prominent examples of me not being cis, but apparently I'm "unnecessarily rude" to her and I "threaten" her when I say that her just ignoring my identity will affect our relationship.
Ma, I know it's selfish, but if it takes that threat for you to care, I will do it. Hell, she even said she'd try to respect me, and after a few days she just gave up. She misgendered me, apologized, and used they for me rather than she. Not a single instance of her calling me anything other than her daughter.
I know it sounds awful, but when it comes to people like her, I see less use of staying around them. It also doesn't help that I'm affected by Capgras delusion, which makes me more prone to being aggressive towards her, at least verbally. Neither of us will win.
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DAE think cis women are jealous?
This thought occurs to me from time to time. I find that I constantly look at other women and compare myself to them (one of the hallmarks of being trans imo). Wish I had her hair, or her boobs, her waist etc... It always leads to me thinking about the cis women who are NOT allies and I wonder if they're jealous.
You see them every so often, the ones who are VERY anti-trans. The ones who blow a gasket and rant about their bigotry. I notice quite often they're ugly. Like, the kind who probably do the same as us. Compare themselves to other women and hate their features. Wish they didn't have a flat butt, or Wish they're brow wasn't so manly.
So, do they hate trans women because we're like them? Only, we're invading their space and we're kinda like competition? Do they hate trans women because in a lot of cases, mtf women actually look better than them?
Idk, it's food for thought. Probably really rude of me, but I just wonder if anyone thinks the same?![]()